If your child is being bullied, the school should have policies in place to support you. There are also organisations that can offer further information and advice if you need it.
Bullying can happen to anyone at any age
We believe that everyone has the right to be safe
Bullying is not an acceptable part of growing up
It can make young people feel lonely, unhappy and frightened
What is bullying?
Deliberately hurtful behaviour that is repeated over time,
It can be spoken, physical or emotional
It can happen at school, in the neighbourhood or in a relationship.
Bullying involves someone using their power over someone else.
It can include:
Threats and physical violence
Damage to property
Leaving pupils out of social activities deliberately
Upsetting mobile phone or email messages (cyber bullying)
Falling out with people or friends breaking up
Short term arguments
A fight or quarrel between 2 children of equal power or strength
What should I do if my child is being bullied?
Your child isn't alone
1 in 2 students say that they have been bullied in any school term
Nearly half of secondary school students feel that their teachers are unaware of the bullying that goes on
Talking to your child
Your child may not directly tell you that they are being bullied but may seem out of character, quiet and suddenly not want to go to school.
Try to find out if anything is wrong by talking to them about:
What they do at lunch and break times
Any problems or worries they have
Finding out your child is being bullied can be very upsetting, but try to remain calm and talk to them about what is happening:
Make a note of what they say has happened; who was involved, where, when, and how often
Reassure them that they did the right thing by telling you
Tell your child to report bullying to a teacher immediately
Talk to your child's school about the bullying. Ask to see their policy on bullying so you know what they will be doing
Stay in touch with the school; let them know whether the bullying stops or is still happening
Encourage your child to stay away from their bully, or to stand up for themselves by standing up straight and showing they are not afraid
If the bullying is really serious, contact your local police station; the police take any report of bullying very seriously. It will be viewed as a potential criminal offence, be recorded and fully investigated. The police will also work in partnership with other people who could help you resolve the situation
If your child is being bullied by text, email or on the internet
Get them to show you any messages they've received
Tell them to never respond to an internet bully in a chat room, and never respond to abusive text messages
Make sure they stick to moderated chat rooms
If bullying or abuse starts in a chat room, tell them to leave immediately and tell you - you can then contact CEOPS
Tell them to never to give out personal contact details online or put photographs of themselves on websites